Friday, 18 October 2013

The importance of support by Susie

In some ways, this week has reminded me of being pregnant. It was the first time I have been in hospital since I was admitted with pre-eclampsia at the end of my second pregnancy. My knee surgery has also left me physically incapacitated and unable to look after myself or my children properly. Being utterly reliant on others is a concept that is alien to me, apart from the times when I was desperately ill with hyperemesis gravidarum (HG) during both my pregnancies.

My new best friends

However, it would be wrong of me and very misleading to equate my current situation with what I went through when I suffered from HG. Although the physio will be a lengthy process, I know that the inconvenience and discomfort I am experiencing at the moment will pass relatively quickly. In a week or so I should be off crutches and far more self-sufficient. In six weeks I should be able to drive again.

It's this one! 
With HG, on the other hand, the sickness and vomiting came out of nowhere and for months there was no sign of it letting up. I remember week nine well. It was a particularly low time in my life. I had already been very ill for weeks and had lost a lot of weight and yet I was not even a quarter of the way through my pregnancy. It felt as though I had a mountain to climb but I had no idea how high that mountain would be or how long it would take to reach the top. Each timescale I was given for my symptoms subsiding – 12 weeks, 16 weeks, 18 weeks, 20 weeks – came and went and still I was suffering. I, like 60% of women who have HG, experienced symptoms throughout the whole nine months of pregnancy. It was not just physically debilitating but also mentally tough.

Nevertheless, there is one issue that is common to my current circumstances and to when I had HG and that is support from others.

This week I have relied heavily on others for support. In fact I don’t know how I would have managed without my husband and my parents getting the children dressed; taking them to school/nursery; cooking their tea; bathing them and putting them to bed. The importance of support cannot be overstated for women suffering from HG.

I consider myself extremely lucky to have amazingly supportive family and friends: my parents who dropped everything and travelled from Lancashire to look after me this week and did so on innumerable occasions when I was pregnant; my husband who works long hours in a demanding job but will gladly, and without complaint, start the household chores when he gets home; and my friends who alleviated the isolation of hospital this week with numerous texts and messages and also supported me and helped with childcare during my second pregnancy. I know that others are not so fortunate.

As well as practical support, women suffering from HG also need emotional support and reassurance and this is why the work that Pregnancy Sickness Support does is so important. Pregnancy Sickness Support runs a network of volunteers who provide one-to-one support for women struggling to cope with HG/pregnancy sickness and an online forum where sufferers can seek support from others who are going through, or have previously experienced, HG or severe pregnancy sickness.

These vital resources would not be possible without donations as the charity receives no funding. So please, please sponsor me to ensure that the charity can continue to provide this support which has been, and will continue to be, crucial to so many women. Thank you.

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Wednesday, 16 October 2013

One Pot Chinese Pork by Muma Dean

A lot of chinese type food takes rather a lot of effort and makes a lot of mess. So I came up with this one in a hurry and did it in one pot so it could go on the campfire but it could obviously go on the stove or in the oven too.


500g diced pork
A bunch of spring onions, sliced into chunks
½ bulb of garlic, chopped up
1cm cubed ginger, chopped up
1 piece of star anise (or if you have Chinese five spice in your cupboard then a sprinkle of that)
3 tbsp sugar
150 ml dark soy sauce
150 ml water
Broccoli (or another green veg of your choice)
Rice to serve it with

Put all the ingredients, except the broccoli, in a pot like this:

bring to the boil and simmer for about 1-1.5hrs, until the pork is really tender. While you cook some rice put the broccoli in for the last 5 mins before the rice is ready and then serve.

Don't forget, if you like this recipe and use it, a small donation to PSS via my BT MyDonate pageis greatly appreciated – Thanks :)

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Tuesday, 15 October 2013

HG friendship by Emma

HG may have taken nine months of my life away but it has also given me much in return. If it wasnt for Pregnancy Sickness Support I would never have met three amazingly strong women and their children: Katrina with Griffin, Cori with Isadora and Sam with Harper.

"There's not a word yet, for old friends who've just met" ~Jim Henson 

“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: “What! You too? I thought I was the only one.” ~ C.S. Lewis

“We are the captains of our own ships sailing the sea of life, but in times of a stormy weather, you will discover true friends when they don’t hesitate to be a lighthouse.” ~ Dodinsky

“It is not so much our friends’ help that helps us, as the confidence of their help.” ~ Epicurus

“A friend is the one who comes in when the whole world has gone out.” ~ Grace Pulpit

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